When Martin was just 29 years old, he was known for being one of the best math brains in the world. He had competed on many fronts, been hired as a consultant by inventors, and was teaching advanced math classes at the university.

Over the years he had a successful career, using his abilities to work through advanced problems requiring a mathematical solution. He would work late nights in his home office after his husband and kids went to bed. When he was given a problem, he dug deeply into finding the solution. He worked on problems for NASA, the military, and companies like Boeing and 3M.

After a long career, he was considering retirement. He knew that retirement probably still meant taking on some challenges as a consultant, but it also meant slowing down considerably with his husband and enjoying the longer trips they had planned for their future.

Martin noticed something was changing and he thought it was likely just the aging process that starts to show in your 50s. He chalked it up to normal at first but then it started to bother him as he was having to keep track of more things that he had to in the past. He started making sure he had a printed calendar with him everywhere he went, and he was having to write sticky notes all around the house to make sure that he didn’t forget something important. His husband, Thomas, because very concerned as the house became covered with the sticky notes and yet Martin was still forgetting important things.

He brought it up and Martin was relieved but worried at the same time. They made an appointment to see Martin’s primary care physician together to discuss what was occurring at home. That appointment scared both of them as the PCP referred him for a geropsychiatry evaluation. He did not feel geriatric and did not feel that this was the level of this type of evaluation. He put it off for 3 months then Thomas said it really needed to happen. They went to the appointment together and walked out shocked with the news that there was mild cognitive impairment that would like to lead to increased impairment. This was not the result they wanted.

The geropsychiatry office had a social worker who met with them and talked about a geriatric care manager who also worked with younger clients. It didn’t feel “younger” to Martin, but he agreed to meet with the care manager because they didn’t know where to start with the diagnosis.

The meeting with the care manager did put them at ease but it also scared them a bit as this was sounding like something that was not going to go away. The talk about planning and next steps was overwhelming but seemed like they would be more manageable with the help of the care manager. This was the best first call they could make. A close relationship grew between Martin, Thomas, and the care manager. She understood not just how to help Martin but also what was needed by Thomas, and the family members who were involved in the care. The care manager helped them through the process and when it reached a time where Martin needed a secure place to live, the care manager helped them find a safe place. The care manager continued to visit them both, and her visits were comforting. It was not an easy process to watch Martin go through this major life process, but Thomas still refers clients to us. He knows that peace of mind and an advocate who understands the process of the disease are invaluable.

If you need help, we urge you to reach out to us by phone at 240-745-5519 or email us at Gemena@GenadasHelpingHands.com today and we’ll be happy to discuss your situation.